Ancient Science on Human Behavior (Parents)

This ancient wisdom come from “Thirukkural” written by a great Tamil Poet / writer, Tiruvilla about 2000 years ago. The first English translation of this epic work was done in 1886 by George Hope and thus became available to the Western world at large. Over the time, Thirukkal has been translated to more than 27 languages across the world by various authors.

What makes this relevant is the behavioral aspects shared in this work has not changed even in this world of modern education & technology. If at all anything, it has only become even more relevant for the present era.

Extracts from the Thirukkural

1. If your child lies to your often, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate behavior.
2. If your child has low self-esteem, it is because you advise them more than you encourage them.
3. If your child does not stand up for themselves, it is because you have disciplined them regularly in public.
4. If your child takes things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don’t let them choose what they want.
5. If your child is cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.
6. If your child does not respect other people’s feelings, it is because instead of speaking to your child, you order and command them.
7. If your child is too quick to get angry, it is because you give them too much attention to misbehavior and little attention to good behavior.
8. If your child is excessively jealous, it is because you only congratulate them when they successfully complete something and not when they improve at something even if they don’t successfully complete it.
9. If your child intentionally disturbs you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.
10. If your child is openly defiant, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don’t follow through.
11. If your child is secretive, it is because they don’t trust that you won’t blow things out of proportion.
12. If your child talks back to you, it is because they watch you do it to others and think its normal behavior.
13. If your child doesn’t listen to you but listens to others, it is because you are too quick to jump to conclusions.
14. If your child rebels it is because they know you care more about what others think than what is right.
15. If your child is not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you’ve lost them.

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